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thoughts about being on a diet

thoughts about being on a diet

I’m deeply in love with food. Basically food is my hobby. If it would be an Olympic sport – to eat it, smell it, take pictures of it, experiment with it or discuss it – I would make my country proud. I know many of […]

how to survive a bad haircut

how to survive a bad haircut

Last week I made a terrible mistake and trusted the randomly picked stylist and thought it was okay to accept her “revolutionary idea”. She told me she would make my hair look thicker. Well, it’s thick as hell now and too short to be true. […]

how to win arguments and improve your relationship

how to win arguments and improve your relationship

Arguing is like doing karate. Both are misinterpreted as something aggressive where one party defeats the other. However the philosophy behind karate teaches its followers to be “inwardly humble and outwardly gentle”, because only this way can anyone stay focused and be open to a real solution. When there is a winner, there is a loser too. And losers tend to stay unsatisfied (or even angry) and there is chance that the conflict will rise again. Not an ideal outcome I guess.

Nobody likes fighting. Deep inside we all just want to be understood. There are lots of articles on the web which describe how to win arguments quickly and in a dominant way. I’m not going to do that. My goal is to show you those awesome communication tactics which will help you to solve the conflict AND make the relationship better. So both of you can win 😉

And here comes the step-by-step guide for a more effective communication:

Listen

Maybe this one is the most difficult part. You should leave your bad feelings behind and listen to the other person very actively. This helps to calm the other party and gives them security, besides you will receive tons of useful information. So do not interrupt, just show your interest by nodding and asking questions to be able to understand the other perspective completely.

Repeat

Now your partner is satisfied, because you listened: it’s time to make them glad! Try to repeat what you have heard by rephrasing it. Make sure to be as neutral as possible, don’t judge the other person or the opinion itself – even if it was judgmental or insulting. Don’t let yourself carried away by emotions. Your time will come, be patient. Now you will be able to clear misunderstandings and show that you really want to understand. For example:

– I’m fed up with you! I hate that you just don’t clean up your dirt.

– So you feel that I neglect doing the chores?

You will be surprised how great this trick works! It turns the angry person in a rational being again. 😉

Understand

If you concentrate on understanding your partner’s motives it helps you to stay kind and effective. Maybe he or she is just tired? Or wants more quality time for her-/himself? Or just feels her-/himself alone? What could lie under the surface? Usually it’s not about the chores.

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we are all sitting in the same spaceship

Communicate

Now it’s your turn to share your feelings. You can also reflect on what has been said by your partner. The most important trick to remember is the following: talk only about yourself. Do not say “You are hurting me” or “You pressure me all the time”. Say “I’m feeling hurt”  and “I feel stressed all the time” instead. Naturally there is a way to pinpoint the other person’s mistakes as well. Use this formula:

when you <do something> I feel <something>

An example: When you tell me to be quiet or shut up, I feel insecure.

Negotiate

Now everyone should feel that what needed to be said is said, so start bringing your standpoints closer to each other. Communicate your needs: think through what your goals are and share them in a polite way. But remember to give a real opportunity for your partner to say no (it will be useful in the long run). Just keep on being open-minded. Kindness is like the flu: you will spread it eventually to the ones next to you. 🙂

+1

Don’t let the topic to be changed. If your partner brings up old conflicts, just say: “I hear you, but let’s stick with our current topic, we can talk about this one later. I promise.”

I know how difficult it is to stay calm during an argument, but believe me, practice makes the master. You will get better and better every single time – and it affects the ones you are talking to as well. It’s totally worth it 😉

3+1 tips for those who hate Valentine’s day

3+1 tips for those who hate Valentine’s day

I have lot of friends who – openly or secretly, but – hate Valentine’s day. On my negative days I can totally understand them. This day of the year can be a burden for not only singles, but for those who live in a relationship […]

bulletproof new year’s resolutions

bulletproof new year’s resolutions

Last year I did not make a list. It seemed like the right thing to do, because I could never keep the promises I made for myself and therefore every year started and ended with a glimpse of disappointment. I failed again. Not a great […]

workout motivation: 7 smart and easy tricks

workout motivation: 7 smart and easy tricks

Working out is tiring. It takes a lot of time. It’s boring as hell. Cuddling on the sofa seems like heaven compared to it.

Does these sentences sound familiar?

When making that bulletproof workout plan, we tend to forget how hard it is to jump in our training clothes on a rainy Wednesday evening. When everybody else is having fun with friends or chilling after a long workday. And the perfect bikini body doesn’t sound so important anymore.

I know the struggle, but you can already be proud of yourself: you are reading an article about how to get motivation, so you haven’t given up yet! Keep up the good work 😉

Here comes the list which helps me all the time:

Selfie diary

Take a selfie after every workout. You will look sweaty, tired, happy and extremely delighted, because you did it. When feeling low and unmotivated again, you just need to grab your phone and take a look at your post-workout glory. Most likely you will want to experience the same again.

Extra tip: take a full body shot as well. After a few weeks it will be very satisfying to compare the before and after results. 😉

Sticky notes

Write a thank you note after every workout – for yourself. Write down how grateful you are for not skipping the training and how good it is to feel your muscles. Then put it on the fridge, on your tablet or on your training clothes. You can even collect them in a scrapbook and read them through on a bad hair day.

Stop washing your hair

Maybe it’s a bit cruel, but if you wash your hair only after working out, you will have the ultimate motivation. I promise. Dry shampoos have their limits too.

A real award

Give yourself a real reward, something which feels like an actual treat. Would kill for macarons? Promise yourself to eat one or two after completing your workout. Wanted to go to the movies? Make it to a reward 😉

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a real workout motivation

Pimp your mood

With these motivating pics! This way you get the chance to prepare yourself mentally (and to procrastinate a little).

Create a ritual

If you have a pre-training ritual, your body will learn to prepare itself for working out in advance and it won’t feel like the most difficult task of the day anymore. It can be anything, like listening to a specific song or preparing your smoothie.

Find the alternative what suits you best

There is no trick which can fool your emotions in the long run. If you hate aerobics or if you are just not that into swimming or going to the gym, maybe you should try a new kind of training. Don’t stop until you find the perfect one! It may be something unique as well, like playing with your dog or sister, dancing the whole night or walking around the city. There is no such thing as bad kind of training, the most important thing is to move you body anyway.

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hit the road
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explore your city

Do you use workout motivation tricks? Share them with us in the comment field 🙂