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High mountains, long ski runs, friendly people and fair prices: yes, we were in the High Tatras!
The only thing missing was snow… Most of the time it was raining, but we were lucky enough to experience one really beautiful and snowy day before the melting really began. I know the skiing holiday was ruined for a lot of people because of the weather, so I’m sure we can be thankful for this single day as well.
I will give you a short summary of our trip, it can be useful if you are planning on having a winter holiday.
We stayed at a little family-run hotel called Penzión Karpatia in Vysoké Tatry. The communication with the staff was little troubled due to the lack of a common language, but otherwise they were the loveliest personnel we could ask for. They really tried to make our stay as pleasant as possible.
The rooms were big and and bright, as minimalistic as expected and a little noisy (the hotel is next to a main road). The bathroom and the toilet – both located outside of the room – were always clean. Everything was as it should be. But now let’s get down to business: the food. Breakfast was included in the price and one evening we stayed in and ordered dinner as well.
I contacted the hotel already in November asking if they could arrange gluten- and milk-free breakfast for me. They promised it wouldn’t be a problem. When we arrived I reminded them on my mail and they said it’s taken care of. However in the end due to possible misunderstandings, there was only one day when gluten- and lactose-free ham and cheese plate was an option (but no bread). So the usual breakfast looked like that:
Which is quite good, but it’s far from the promised “no problem” situation.
The dinner was much more successful from an allergy-friendly point of view. The soup and the main course were prepared separately, and an apple was served as dessert.
Overall, Penzión Karpatia is a perfect hotel for a short stay in the High Tatras, but be well-prepared and bring your own bread if you are living on a gluten-free diet.
Both the High and Low Tatras were beautiful and the ski slopes are really satisfying for beginners and for those who are on an intermediate level. I would certainly recommend this area for everyone who wants to have a nice ski holiday – even on a budget.
As already mentioned, we didn’t have much snow, so we turned to plan B: sightseeing and playing Bang 🙂 We explored two little cities: Kežmarok and Betliar. The former has a nice little pink cafe where the hot chocolate is made from Belgian chocolate, and the latter has an astonishing castle with a huge, beautiful garden: definitely worth a visit 😉
At last I have to mention everyone’s absolute favorite: the French themed restaurant U Septima in Poprad. We just couldn’t get enough of their delicious food, so we ate dinner twice there. The allergens were clearly displayed next to every meal on the menu and everything was just perfect. I’ll let the pictures talk for themselves:
Kriszti, Péter: thank you for the pictures!
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You can be anything they said. Sure, but sooner or later you have to choose a path, a goal, a career or a life purpose – doesn’t matter what you call it and this decision is one of the hardest puzzles in life. Choosing whatever you like feels liberating at first, but if we go deeper, it is easy to see how the huge number of possible choices can strangle one’s decision making process.
The unbearable lightness of being
So where should I go – I kept on asking. I’ve already finished studying, I should know better. I should be happy for the unnumbered options I have, but I felt insecure instead. What if I choose wrong? What if I picked the wrong school in the first place? What if I don’t know what I really like? And by like I mean I-would-be-happy-for-doing-this-for-the-rest-of-my-life kind of liking.
Does this sound familiar? We’ve all been there. So now I decided to share the method that helped me a lot. You just have to get know the real you better and for this you only need to answer four questions honestly. And by honestly I mean you have to let go all your judgment and every expectation (yours or others). Take your time and let the real answers find their way.
Part 1: The last speech
Let’s imagine we’re on your funeral. (I know it’s creepy but stay put.) What should be said about you?
“Her art inspired a lot of us. She will be remembered forever.”
“Nobody could cook quite like him.”
“He was a wonderful person, a loving husband and a perfect dad.”
“I want to live my life like she did: a minimalist and nature-lover goddess.”
“I wish I spent more time with him, he read everything and knew about everything.”
“She had the most splendid career, was a role model for her generation.”
This way it’s so much easier to see what really matters in your life and what you do only because it is expected from you. Write down a few sentences you actually would be proud of hearing and than go on to the next question.
Part 2 and 3: A child’s fantasy
Remember your childhood dreams? They say a lot about your personality and preferences.
As children we see the world and our future selves from a different perspective. We are not bound by the will of others, we don’t care about financial stability, and being acknowledged by society is not one of the most important tasks we wish to accomplish.
In this section you are about to examine two questions: What were your dream jobs as a child? And what features did they have in common?
I tell mine so you’ll get the idea more easily behind this section. As for me I wanted to be a florist, an actress and a writer. (Yes, all at the same time.) What is similar in between them? Creativity, independence and the urge to create or express something.
Now write down your childhood’s most significant dream jobs and search for some common ground. You can look on the structure (maybe you wanted something steady or something which gave you freedom, is it a job where you are alone or work in a team, etc.), or on what personality traits you have to have (see my example).
Let’s move a step forward again.
Part 4: Flow
What were you doing the last time when the rest of the world seemed to have disappeared? When you got so involved in the given task that you didn’t feel hunger or tiredness? When did you experience flow as a child and as an adult?
It doesn’t have to be something fancy or magnificent or noble. It can be anything, like playing on the computer or listening to music. When you have it, you just have to look deep inside and find what really fascinates you in that activity.
For example I just loved to play The Sims (secretly of course, it wasn’t that cool back than). I enjoyed creating a whole new world of imagination where I can control the storyline
and the swimming pool’s construction: with or without ladder.
And your life purpose is…
… something (un)expected?
Now you just have to merge all your answers: read them all and try to see the whole picture. Where do all the answers point to? What are the similar features in all of them? Now try to look for a job or role where your chosen features are present. In the beginning it may not be the Holy Grail, but think about it: you have a crucial information about yourself in your hands which now you can use. These four questions helped me to identify my own desires, now it’s easier to tell them apart from other people’s expectations (which I tended to misinterpret as my own).
No matter which path you choose, one thing is certain: you will have to practice a lot. Hard work is your best friend, so do something for your goal every day, practice whenever you can – like I’m doing it right now, writing this post. Now go and find your life purpose! 🙂
Huge thanks to the Wait But Why blog, their article on taming the mammoth inspired me a lot!